If you’re a man who has a “pit bull wife,” there’s an important lesson here if you want to have any hope of creating the kind of relationship you want with your woman…
Marty is at his wits end and wants to know what to do about his relationship with his wife. He loves her but doesn’t feel “in love” with her any more because she’s a lot like a pit bull dog. Everything is going along just fine one minute and the next minute, she’s going for his throat and he doesn’t even know what he’s done.
If you’re with a woman who’s a “pit bull,” sometimes it’s all you can do to just try and survive and keep your sanity and your manhood. You do whatever you can to try to keep the peace.
If you’re with a woman who’s a “pit bull,” you know what I’m talking about.
You do what my wife Susie and I call “talk on eggshells” and try to make sure you don’t say anything that will “set her off.”
Sometimes you just become emotionally or energetically distant so that you don’t have to deal with her.
Other times you might get into these big blowout fights with her only to find out that that doesn’t work either.
Today, more than ever, there seems to be an abundance of women who are “pit bulls” and won’t back down ever until they get their way and get what they want.
I personally know how crazy this can be to be in a relationship with a woman who’s a pit bull. Just like our friend Marty, I’ve been in a relationship with a pit bull and let me tell you that it can certainly be
a roller-coaster ride and not one you want to be on for very long.
There are three traits I’ll share with you that can help you identify if a woman is a “pit bull” or not. She’s demanding, at times domineering and can also be a big-time manipulator.
It’s not fun to try to deal with a woman you’re in a relationship with or married to who is a “pit bull” because it’s very difficult to think about the idea of “lighting her up” when you’re just trying to make sure you don’t get swallowed up by her and her anger, her critical or harsh comments or manipulation.
So, what do you do if you are with a woman who’s a “pit bull” and you’re wanting more from the relationship?
What do you do when you love her but it seems like everything she does stings so bad and rams a big hole in your heart?
Here is some advice for men like Marty in a situation like this. If you’re in a relationship with a “pit bull” and you want her to change…
1 Spend more time focusing on what you want for your relationship and life and commit to yourself to having more of that.
If you’re in a relationship or married to a “pit bull” and want her to change, I think it’s going to be really important to start to get clear on what you want more of the time, giving yourself permission to have it and finding ways to create it.
2. Get out of limbo-land
“LImbo-land” is this place where you feel stuck in your relationship or marriage and aren’t really sure whether it’s best for you to stay in this committed relationship or whether you should think about moving on.
There are many things that go into making this decision and because it’s such an important one, that’s why we created our “Should You Stay or Should You Go?” book and audio program.
It’s an amazing program that helps you decide whether you should stay or go and whether you can ever have what you want in this relationship or whether you should move on.
3. Step up. Really step up.
Sometimes our women become “pit bulls” because they don’t feel like we men are “trustable” to be THE MAN.
My advice–learn how to become more masculine, more present, more solid, more centered and more of a man.
When you do this, it will give your woman the idea more of the time that she can relax and depend on you. She’ll trust that she doesn’t have to be the ONLY one who has to lead in your relationship.
When I imply she doesn’t “trust” you, I don’t mean that she thinks necessarily thinks you’re cheating.
I mean that even a “pit bull” at her core wants to relax some of the time and let her man take the lead–but only if he’s trustable.
4. Stop Talking On Eggshells…
So much of the time, we men don’t say what we want and what’s important to us in our relationship and life. Then we’re angry and pissed off when we don’t get more of what we want.
If you want to create something different and special with your woman (or anyone else), then you absolutely MUST Stop Talking On Eggshells.
It’s impossible to create what we want with our woman if we’re afraid to ask for it.
If you want to light up your woman, one of the absolute keys is to stop talking on eggshells. This is because whether you’re in a committed relationship or not, NO WOMAN is attracted to or turned on by a man who’s afraid to say what’s on his mind or holds back in speaking his truth.
We men love women who are assertive, forward and take the initiative (especially in the bedroom) but there’s a fine line women can cross from being assertive to being demanding, controlling or manipulative to the point where it isn’t healthy and it doesn’t feel good.
If you find yourself in a relationship with a pit bull, my advice is to find a way to “tame” her.
The four tips I just gave you is a great place to start (no matter where you are).
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