Relationship Advice for the Man Who Has Lost Attraction for his Woman

If your woman no longer turns you on (but other women do), here’s a question for you…Do you hold your woman (and ALL women) to a higher standard than you do yourself?

If you’re anything like me and almost every other man I know, the answer is YES and not only is it not fair to women but it could also be keeping your woman from being as attracted to you as you might like.

Until I got this email I’m about to share with you, I haven’t really put too much thought into this idea but this woman’s words really spoke to me as truth and I want to share them with you now…

Woman’s Comments>>>>

“I am a woman and I read some of the articles for men. I like them. Good advice. One thing, in the article about loving a woman who no longer turns you on, while spot on in every respect, I would like to add that there are probably things the women of these men overlook also.

“We are slightly more visual than you would think and there is some biology to this, just not the stuff you always read about. We are also social creatures and are influenced by others around us –media, friends, societal changes, reactions to how men act towards us, etc….

“Keep in mind that women are no longer so dependent on a man financially as we once were. We no longer have so many kids to provide for, so we can be choosy.

“Women are having affairs in greater numbers than ever. I hear more women being shallow about men’s appearances and expecting more than ever before. I am not making a value judgment, I am not crazy about this trend, because I don’t like superficiality in anyone.

“However, before judging a woman harshly for not being a Victoria Secret model, remember that unless you are Greek godlike, women probably lovingly choose to focus on positive aspects of their men too, instead of the paunchy belly, receding hairline, or poor taste in clothing. Just saying.

“Otto, balance it out by telling the guy to look in the mirror before casting aspersions on his wife’s appearance. Besides being loving makes us all more loveable and beautiful and leads to healthier living.

“If he is loving, she will probably be happier and healthier and may indeed lose weight.”

Otto’s Response>>>

I think this is some amazing advice and there’s nothing that can be argued with here. The challenge for us men is to hold ourselves to the same standards (or higher) than we place on our women. This is something I’m doing in my own life.

For example, I can stand to lose some weight and I’ve recommitted to working out with a trainer twice a week and being more conscious about my food choices.

This woman who wrote in to me is totally right on. How can we expect our women to look like Victoria Secret models and be ready to have sex with us every time we turn around if WE don’t turn them on as well?

We can’t.

So, I’ll leave you with a question…What changes are you willing to make in your life to hold yourself to a higher standard than you’ve been willing to do up until now?

My advice is to look at all the different aspects of your relationship and life and just consider what you might be willing to commit to in order to make things more exciting and bring more of the passion back.

Look at the physical, your attitudes, your beliefs, your relationship skills like your ability to communicate or anything else that will help you hold yourself to a higher standard.

Oh, and one more thing…

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