Try This Magic Trick To Understand What Your Woman Wants

A friend of mine, who I’ll call Jeff, asked my advice recently. He’s just started dating a wonderful woman and he’s really confused (and anxious too). He doesn’t want to do the wrong thing and scare her off– as has happened with other women in the past. Even if you’re already in a committed love relationship or […]

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Why You DON’T Have to Choose Between What You Love and the One You Love

It was a fascinating conversation recently with a few of the guys I train with at the Aikido dojo… The conversation didn’t last too long but it was very revealing about us men and our desires. Everyone in this conversation loves Aikido and expressed an interest in getting even better at it. So we discussed how many days a week it’s recommended that […]

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The WRONG Thing to Blame if You’re Looking for a Partner

“Where do I go to find women in this town?!” This is the question that a friend who I’ll call “Big D” asked me recently at the Aikido dojo where we both practice. Big D knows that I’m a relationship coach and I work with both men and women to help them create more passion and love […]

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Are You Listening from Love?

If you’re like most people, you frequently ask yourself questions. Especially when it comes to communicating with your partner in an uncomfortable or tense time, thoughts like this might come to mind… “What should I do?” “What does she mean?” “What can I say to make this better?” Asking yourself questions can be very helpful […]

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Most Men Are Afraid To Be…

Even with the many cultural changes that have occurred over the years, some things have remained. It’s still not completely acceptable for a man to be afraid. Think of the stereotypes of a fearful guy and you’ll probably come up with images of a man who startles easily and cowers at the sight of a […]

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Why do jerks win with women?

if you’re a man, did you ever wonder why women often choose the “jerk” instead of the “nice” guy? If so, here’s a link to a video that Otto just did where he tackles the questions of Why jerks win with women? and why “nice guys” never seem to make their women truly happy even […]

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Are Men the Laughing Stock of the Sexes?

I love men and I LOVE Being a Man but as I write this, it seems that men everywhere are under fire. Men are under fire from women, from the media and as best as I can tell–men are on the fast track to becoming the laughing stock of the sexes. The worst part of […]

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One Of Your Woman’s Biggest Fears… (Are you Making It Worse?)

If you’re a man, you may not know this but women everywhere wonder about THIS question much more than you might ever think… Her question is this: “What *IF* he wants another woman more than me?” Of course, if you’re doing the kinds of things I teach in my “Light Her Up” book and audio […]

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What to do when you’re tired of fighting…

Today I’ve got a couple of great tips for you for how to deal with your relationship (and your woman) when relationship challenges pop up. As a relationship coach and a mentor for men I can tell you that relationship challenges can take on a million different looks but one thing that’s for sure is… […]

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Relationship Advice When You’re Not in a Relationship But Want to Be…

Here’s The Craziest Thing I’ve Ever Heard About Relationships… The trouble is–I hear it from men (and women too) ALL the time and it’s one of the things that keeps you from having the love you really want…. It’s something a guy said to me the other day and it certainly isn’t the first time […]

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