Relationship Advice for Men Who Want to Communicate Better

If you’ve been alive for very long at all, you know that “storms” are a part of life.

Storms come and they go but some people are actually addicted to the drama of “storms” and actually “chase” them, especially relationship storms.

Chasing storms like tornadoes and hurricanes isn’t the smartest thing in the world to do but plenty of otherwise intelligent people do it anyway.

It’s the same way in our relationships–some men actually get off on creating drama and “storms” in their
relationships that almost NEVER take them closer toward what they want with their woman.

So how do you tell if you’re a Relationship “Storm Chaser” and what do you do next if you are?

I watched my 22 year old son with fascination as he watched the TV show “Storm Chasers” and I gotta’ admit it’s quite the show.

If you’ve never caught an episode or you’ve never heard of it…

Storm Chasers is a TV show on the Discovery Channel that highlights a group of scientists and filmmakers who
hunt down tornadoes to capture stunning severe weather video and valuable scientific data that will eventually help teach scientists and meteorologists how to predict storms more accurately.

“Storm Chasers” is great because it’s a pure adrenaline rush for the storm chasers and as someone who’s
watching–you don’t have to go get in the middle of a tornado and actually get in harms way to get the effect of what’s going on and how exciting and dangerous it is.

This reminds me a little bit of the way some men are in their relationships and marriages.

They aren’t happy until and unless they’re stirring up a bunch of S%&*# on a regular basis with their woman.

It’s crazy, I know. but…

It’s actually true that some men aren’t happy until and unless they’re creating some kind of drama or chasing a “relationship storm” (usually brought on by some communication challenge with their woman….)

In relationships where there are a lot of “storms,” one of the things I occasionally wonder about is something like…

“How would it be possible to have the relationship, love and passion and yes, sex and intimacy you want–without all the drama?”

The bottom line is that I think everyone would be better off and both men and women would both get what they want more of if there were less drama and “Storms” to deal with in their relationships and life.

A “storm” can be a lot of things but here are a couple of things specifically that “storms” in a relationship revolve around…

– Drama

– Upsets and

– All the things we do that keep the drama and upsets going long after the situation has calmed itself down.

You know you’re in a relationship “storm” when you’re upset and you can’t even remember why.

It’s a “storm” if it’s a conflict that one or both people seem attached to or committed to holding onto.

It’s a “storm” when anything has happened that causes the two of you to feel separated and disconnected from each other.

I’ve got a couple of quick suggestions (and a couple of resources) for you to consider the next time you find
yourself in a “relationship storm” that you wish would blow over much faster than it seems to be moving.

1) Take a look at your “why” for why you keep conflicts going instead of finding ways to resolve them.

This might be to prove a point, to make sure she knows you’re “right” and she’s wrong or any number of other reasons.

If you’re doing anything to keep the drama and conflict going– stop it.

2) Don’t stand and fight but don’t run away either.

Neither “fighting” with her or running away when things get tough will light your woman up and make her more open to you.

3) Communicate, Communicate, Communicate.

If you don’t know how to do this in a way that opens your woman’s heart, mind, soul and body to you, you are really missing out on the power of communicating to connect with her.

You can download the recordings from an online seminar my wife Susie and I did a few months back called “a Crash Course In Communicating With Women”

The great thing about communicating with your woman at the heart and soul level that we teach is that feeling “connected to you” is one of her greatest desires.

Make her feel truly and deeply “connected” to you and you can take your relationship from Stormy to sensational in no time at all.

If you’ve got any comments about this article, drop me a note and let me know what you’re thinking.

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